How to have Christ-centered friendships

Dear Kianna,
As a young adult, how can I invite God into my friendships and relationships?
– Committed

Dear Committed,
Inviting our Lord into the center of your friendships will bring new graces, beauty and unity to these relationships. When the Lord is at the forefront of your life and you are synced with the heart of Christ, the blessings that come will be as numerous as the stars.

Relationships are a central part of what it means to be human. Our Lord invites us to engage in discipleship by walking with and supporting one another. Our friends serve important roles in our earthly journeys, helping us to encounter the love of Christ more deeply.

When inviting God into your relationships, my first suggestion is to pray. Begin everything in prayer and call upon the name of the Lord. Start your prayer by calling upon the Trinity, “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.” Pray specifically for your friendships and list your peers by name.

When you spend time with your friends, if you feel comfortable, try sharing your faith with one another. The most engaging and in-depth conversations I have had with my friends have been centered on God and our faith. Do not be afraid to speak, listen and seek to grow closer to our Lord with your peers. If you do not feel comfortable sharing your faith or verbally bringing God into your relationships just yet, ask Jesus for strength, wisdom and grace. Call upon the Holy Spirit whenever you feel afraid, and he will provide you with all the guidance you need.

If some of your friends do not practice the faith or even believe in God, this does not mean you cannot invite Jesus to be at the center of these relationships. Keep praying for your peers, whether they are believers or not, and love everyone with the heart of Christ. Through your love and friendship, you are modeling the person of Christ.

If Jesus is your best friend, then all your other relationships will build upon this. If Christ is at the center of your heart, then you will see how the graces that flow from this union will bless others in your life. It is difficult to explain what it feels like to be fully consumed by Christ and to totally offer yourself to him, but once you do, you will never want to turn back. If you have not yet taken a step toward our Lord, I encourage you to start today.

Above all, do not be afraid! You are not alone on this earthly pilgrimage, and I pray that you may encounter the transformational love and peace of Christ. “Do not fear: I am with you; do not be anxious: I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my victorious right hand” (Isaiah 41:10).

God bless!

Northwest Catholic - November 2020

Kianna Garmanian

Kianna Garmanian is the youth minister at St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Parish in Bothell. Send your questions to

Kianna Garmanian es Ministra para Jóvenes en la Parroquia Santa Elizabeth Ann Seton de Bothell. Envíe sus preguntas a