Keeping our New Year’s resolutions

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Accepting and cooperating with God’s grace is a matter of admitting 
our powerlessness and commending our lives to his care

Years ago a priest friend recounted a meeting with a couple in his parish. The wife had insisted that her husband, who had been drinking excessively, meet with him.

She contended that if he would make a pledge in Father’s presence to stop drinking, all would be well. Thus it was that the wife, determined, and her husband, shamefaced, came to the rectory.

“He wants to take the pledge,” announced the wife.

“How long do you want to take it for?” Father asked the husband.

"I usually take it for life,” came the response. They had been through this before, with little success.

This is the time of year when folks make promises, resolutions and pledges. Some are of greater consequence than others, but ironically our success in keeping them does not depend on whether they are easy or difficult.

God completes every resolution

The keeping of a sincere resolution may appear to be a personal victory — “I did it!” — but in reality it is a matter of grace. We unwittingly assume that we need God’s grace only for the difficult challenges and that we can take care of the easy ones by ourselves.

But blessed are we when we discover, in matters great and small, that it is God who inspires every good intention, God who strengthens us to persevere, God who completes every resolution and fulfills every pledge.

If God does it all, if everything is a matter of his grace, what are we to do? Sit back and watch? Thank God when things work out to our satisfaction and blame him when they do not? Not at all. Rather, it is always a matter of accepting God’s grace as a given and then cooperating with it.

It is presumptuous to assume that we accomplish things by the sheer force of will. It is not presumptuous to assume that God is the source of every good intention, that he desires only what is good for us, and that he is always working for our good.

He asks only that we accept and consciously nourish his inspiration and avoid anything that works against it, anything he has shown to be evil and thus bad for us (even in areas of our lives which appear to have little or nothing to do with the matter at hand).

In Christ Our Brother, Father Karl Adam wrote:
“To cooperate with grace means nothing else than reverently to accept and bravely foster the impulse and motion which my activity has already received from God; or, more precisely, not to interrupt it perversely or wantonly arrest its course. Therefore to cooperate with grace really means to be of good will … Consequently my personal contribution is a very small and simple thing.

In its nature it is no greater an achievement than the achievement of the little child which allows its father to lift it up that it may pluck an apple from the tree, and allows him then to take its tiny hand in his and wrench the apple loose. ‘You plucked it and it is yours,’ says the father to his child, and the child accepts its father’s love without any resistance. And that is all we need, the small and simple acceptance of the little child.”

Give God credit for everything

Without question, some resolutions are more serious and more difficult to keep than others, particularly when they pertain to addiction. The crucial spiritual insight of Alcoholics Anonymous is revealed in the first three of the 12 steps:

1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him

God invites us to commend our lives to his care. To make any worthy resolution means to cooperate with his grace and humbly let him make us aware of his loving presence, bring all good things to fulfillment for us and in us, and forgive us when we fail!

If we usually make resolutions “for life” this time of year and soon find that we have not kept them, perhaps we have been relying solely on ourselves. The best New Year’s resolution is to give God credit for everything, strive to cooperate with his grace, and avoid everything which works against what he desires to do in us.

God keeps every one of his promises.

Send your prayer intentions to Archbishop Sartain’s Prayer List, Archdiocese of Seattle, 710 Ninth Ave., Seattle, WA 98104.

Northwest Catholic - January/February 2014

Archbishop J. Peter Sartain

Send your prayer intentions to Archbishop Sartain’s Prayer List, Archdiocese of Seattle, 710 Ninth Ave., Seattle, WA 98104.